All of my life, I have been an “All or nothing” girl. I go all in and shoot for the top. I have never been much into taking small steps. instead I will spend hours or even days trying to figure out how to make large leaps. I found myself doing more research than work. That being said, I have wasted a lot of time looking when I could have been achieving.

My self-esteem went from a minus 3 from earlier this week and shot up to an 8 by the end of this week. Why? Because I changed my approach.  I broke down my tasks into the lowest possible denominator. Then I completed them because they were small enough to make a difference and small enough that I could do them well.

This is what I learned

  1. Checking items off of your to do list does wonders for your self-esteem
  2. Getting things accomplished shows you how much MORE you are really capable  of doing
  3. You are no longer at a standstill. You are moving forward.
  4. You will find yourself in a position to help others. Suddenly, you are in the position to empower others.
  5. Getting finished is a great ‘high’! This feels great. And no one can take away what I completed.

But don’t just take my word for it. Here is what others have to say:

Nothing builds self-esteem and self-confidence like accomplishment. – Thomas Carlyle

Nothing can stop the man with the right mental attitude from achieving his goal – Thomas Jefferson

I feel liberated, empowered, inspired and motivated. Fear holds you back from achieving what you want in life – Ricki-Lee Coulter

One step at a time towards my goals and my self-esteem.

Much Love

Minister Ayoka…

Ayoka Boyce is a published author (aka Nikki P. Serene), blogger, writing coach and Mentor. She is the founder of All Write RVA, a not for profit organization that promotes writing and literacy, and the creative director of MORE Magazine.

2 Comments

  1. Thank you for this timely article! I am printing two copies to put over my desk both at home and at work.

    I had been in a rut of sorts recently, however, once I identified my problem, sought God for the solution and been knocking down my tasks even breaking some down to smaller tasks so I am not exhausted.

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